The Mullet. The simple answer to all your problems.
Ahhh... the 70s and 80s were a fun time. Men wanted to wear their hair long. Employers, not so much.
Enter the classic men's haircut, the Mullett.
Short in the front, long in the back (or more frequently stated "business in the front, party in the back").
Men would keep the back hair long and tuck it into their collars to hide the length. The goal was to make the statement, "I am all business by day, but I'm really a rebel!"
So, what's this have to do with ANYTHING?!?
Your brain. The part of your brain that is causing you all the drama, stress, and anxiety, is very similar to the Mullet.
Your brain is like the Mullet!
The 'thinking brain', also known as your prefrontal cortex, supplies the "business in the front" thoughts. It likes to plan. It likes to organize. It wants to be in charge. It is very rational.
The back part of your brain (i.e., the partier, also known as the basal ganglia) is more like a toddler in the check out line at the grocery store. It's screaming for a candy bar while flopping on the tile floor.
This part of your brain wants to eat ice cream. It wants to sleep late. It doesn't want to call your mother and would prefer to blow off all its responsibilities and sit and watch Netflix.
But, before you get all upset at "toddler brain," know that it is also working non-stop to keep you breathing, to keep your heart beating, and all the things that you don' have time to think about while you are running around doing stuff for other people.
Thank you, toddler brain!
Toddler brain was running rampant in my life. It would talk to me at 3 a.m. and reminds me of that time I was mean to the drive-thru person at McDonald's, and that my report for work isn't perfect, and that co-worker who totally snubbed me in the bathroom last Thursday was talking to someone in the hall, and I am now convinced the conversation was about me and my hair!
Thank you, toddler brain?
The first step in controlling toddler-brain is to understand it exists.
Once you have this knowledge, you become much more aware of the thoughts it is throwing at you all day (and night) long.
The more awareness you have, the more in control you become.
Working on our thoughts takes practice, but can make a tremendous difference in your life!
If you are curious about how you can start to take control of your thoughts and begin to make positive steps in your life, please reach out to me at alisa@secondactcoach.com.
I would love to work with you.
Alisa